Was revising Onmyoji these few days... and read a very sweet article inspired by Abe no Seimei:
五六七歲的小朋友做起事情來...其實是很有原則的...聽友人談起小朋友的事...總是趣味不斷...
他們每天都會吃點心...有一天...點心是炒麵和水餃...為了不要分太多碗盤裝...(要洗很多碗!)友人就將炒麵和水餃裝在一個碗裡...小朋友看見了...很不開心...直說:「這樣都混在一起了...我不要~」友人說:「吃進肚子還不是也都混在一起!?」小朋友就開始鬧:「我不要啦~我不要啦~」友人還是很堅持...反正都一樣...小朋友更堅持...一直鬧到大哭起來...(最後應該也吃了吧!?)
但是第二天...小朋友還是很高興地迎接點心時間...這時看見他這麼開心的友人忍不住要逗他...便說:「喲~不知道誰呀...昨天還哭了呢!!」小朋友馬上嘟起嘴:「沒有,我才沒有哭!!」
呵呵呵...聽到這裡...是不是跟我想到一樣的畫面!?晴明也一樣嘟起嘴跟博雅說:「不,我沒有哭...」「いや、泣いた」博雅自信滿滿地說...「泣いておらん」死不承認的晴明...
這二人...真是像二個天真無邪的小鬼...一起吃飯,玩樂,冒險,盪秋千...一起上廁所...互相打鬧,打氣...又互相取笑,漏氣...
小朋友時的友情能有多深??其實那時候最純真的感情及心情是最深的...因為心裡最重要的除了自己就是好朋友...只是後來隨著長大...我們的心裡愈裝愈多自以為重要的事...於是...放著友情的位置也愈來愈小...就算自己心裡把友情擺第一位...但對方心裡卻不這麼認為時...雙方給予彼此的回應是不相等的...所以才會愈來愈孤獨...只是小朋友的友情雖純真但卻易碎...和晴明博雅之間不同的是...二人不只是稚子般的純真友情...同時還擁有強烈的信任及成人的理性...他們給予彼此的友情回應是相等強烈的...所以就算晴明是妖物博雅也是他的好朋友...就算晴明要賭上性命博雅也願相隨...不管博雅有任何難題晴明都願為他解決...只有在博雅面前晴明才會露出真實的自己...
你說我們能不能有如同晴明博雅般的友情??雖然一直響往但後來的我覺得很難了...在年少輕狂那段友情至上的那個時候...朋友說:走~去打球!去喝茶!去逛街!去哪去哪~~馬上便回說:好~走!...ok~走吧!...愈是長大後...
這樣的情景己不知消失到哪去了...約朋友說:走~去打球!去喝茶!去逛街!去哪去哪~~收到的回答總是:現在?...我有事耶~...要先約時間哦~因此長大之後...變成大人的我們...當友人能坐在我旁邊無心機地聊家常事...而我也還能無所求地坐在這裡聽他說著...一同笑著...其實此刻己經是最大的幸福了...
i reali agree with the last paragraph.... sometimes the greatest gift we can give to friends, is to waste time with them...
Friendship
Posted by
YN
Wednesday, March 23, 2005
4 comments:
jus wondering...u really type out all the chinese characters or that you see it online and copy & paste?
agreed - sometimes it's simply priceless to enjoy spending time with someone and not have to discuss something "meaningful"... in fact, trying to put meaning or purpose into interaction can cause more trouble than it's worth, and can take away from the magic of simply and purely enjoying one's company...
that's one of the highlights of friendship - that you don't need to do anything or say anything... it just is... and you could be having the time of your life ;p
sometimes, i guess i'm guilty of this too, we think too much and feel driven and pressured to "achieve" (i don't know what the right word is - but i'm trying to say that we shouldn't get frustrated at "wasting time" or "not achieving anything" or "having no purpose")... we need to jus lay back and allow ourselves to enjoy the simple fact of life, of existence, without feeling this pressure... after all, times like this really can remind one of the true meaning of life, to celebrate God and His creation!!!
in-Christ,
dave
You can understand that, Dave?
=)
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It's true what you say - tho it's an inevitability, too, that life becomes more and more complicated as you get older... as a child your world is simply your parents, school and a few friends... nothing much to worry/think about besides that...
... whereas, as an adult there are so many more elements you need to balance, e.g. friends, relationships, family, work, study, other responsibilities, etc....... and balancing adequately is difficult so that to achieve such a balance one needs to be mindful of it constantly. I do think tho, that despite all the conflicting demands for our time, we should devote our full attention to whatever we do at the time - i.e. do that as though it's the ONLY thing there is...
About childhood friendships, I agree they're really lovely and innocent, but can't help wondering how many pple you know at age 5/6 you are actually still friends with now? I feel that I value my current friendships so much more, as they are not just results of chance (e.g. neighbours, classmate, family friend) but actually reflect our own choosing and identity, and so are more meaningful... and also, perhaps the time demands of adult life enhance rather than take away from the meaning - so if someone gives you their time now, you know they are giving you something that is extremely precious and valuable to them - is that not more worthwhile than them spending time with you when they have lots and lots of free time?
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